The way I look....
at what you call "LOVE".


" Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.".  This is how we approach a relationship. We believe that love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.

There is hardly any activity, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love.

So what is love -- real, lasting love?

Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love.

If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.

Now that you're feeling so warmly toward the entire human race, how can you deepen your love for someone? The way God created us, actions affect our feelings most. For example, if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts may be a start, but giving will get you there. Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving -- and that means giving.

While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love.

What is giving? True giving, is other-oriented, and requires four elements. The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth. The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an emotional need). The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is." These three components all depend upon the fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know him or her.

The effect of genuine, other-oriented giving is profound. It allows you into another person's world and opens you up to perceiving his or her goodness. At the same time, it means investing part of yourself in the other, enabling you to love this person as you love yourself.

The more you give, the more you love. This is why your parents (who've given you more than you'll ever know) undoubtedly love you more than you love them, and you, in turn, will love your own children more than they'll love you.

Because deep, intimate love emanates from knowledge and giving, it comes not overnight but over time.
If someone mistreats you while professing to love you, remember: "Love is a behavior."

A relationship grows stronger when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual,
unconditional giving -- not only saying, "I love you," but showing it.....

This is what I believe.. what "Love" is all about. Do you think you can describe in better words ? If you can.. I'd be glad to hear it.. Contact me using the things in contacts section or email me at mayursha@yahoo.com.

@}------- Love always... Mayur